What Do You Love? The Right Question to Guide Your Day

When planning my day…..
It is important that I’m asking the right question.

I find that when looking at where I want to guide my attention, energy and actions for the day, I sometimes allow myself to be guided by the wrong question and it gets me into trouble.

“What do I love?”
is a very different question than
“What do I think will be successful?”

 “What do I love?” is a question of the heart that brings me back home to my center, my truth, my purpose, my passion and my strength. It’s a question that prompts answers that open me, empower me, excite me and fulfill me.

“What do I think will be successful?” is a question from my ego that prompts me to chase work that I can do and can do well, but isn’t the true work of my heart and soul. It is a question based in fear rather than love. It is a question that I’m asking society to answer rather than a question that I’m asking my own heart to answer.

And when I move out of alignment with my heart, there is a constriction, an angst, a pushing and a resistance that isn’t in alignment with the flow state of my natural ground of being.

When I ask “What do I love?” I return over and over and over again to the truth of who I am and the enduring truth of my soul’s purpose. This is the most fulfilling success that I know; The success of trusting what has always been true and has always been there within, patiently and steadfastly calling to me from just beyond the all the noise and illusion of a society that is still learning how to love.

Trusting the answers to “What Do I Love?” is the real success that I’ve been looking for all along. 

Succeed, Explore, Discover, Repeat

Succeed, Explore, Discover, Repeat

Examining your wins and applying the lessons learned
is a winning success strategy all too rarely practiced in time-stressed organizations.


Mag-GlassMost organizations I work with have learned to take the time to examine the particular circumstances that contribute to failure or significant problems. This is often called a ‘Post Mortem.’ It’s a great idea and companies that don’t learn from their mistakes in a systematic way often make the same or similar mistakes again and again.

But here is the real game changer….

Don’t just celebrate your successes;
Study your successes and let what you discover
lead to more big wins to come.



Bonsai Evolution

People who come together consistently to explore ideas, share inspirations,
encourage grand endeavors and re-examine goals are called a team.

People who come together periodically to mend bridges, fill potholes
and put out fires are individuals on collective emergency life support.


Spring has sprung and I am tending to my gardens. It got me thinking, a team is much like a garden. Unattended it can grow wild and quickly get itself into an unwieldy mess. Cared for, managed, loved, trimmed, fed and shaped, it can be a thing of beauty that yields a bountiful harvest.

Agave-Trained-1Like a team. Yes?

Out in my garden I have a beautiful Agave plant that I am training to grow toward the light.

It was crowded into an unhealthy space and position by some invasive plants. I removed the unwanted influences, but that wasn’t enough to redirect the Agave toward the newly opened space. It had developed some bad growing habits. It needed support and guidance.


Effective Teamwork Depends on Team Viscosity

Effective Teamwork Depends on Team Viscosity

The true depth of connection between team members is an invisible quality.
Effective teamwork is mostly seen when the team
faces the most challenging of circumstances.


Don’t look up ‘Viscosity’ in the dictionary if you want a good description of highly effective teams.  I don’t assume you want your team to be “gooey.”

And yet I find that the term so effectively describes that “stuff” that flows throughout a highly cohesive team and keeps them smoothly humming along under the greatest of stress.

Reef-KnotWhat is that mysterious quality that truly connects team members, lubricates difficult situations and keeps friction from building to a point where parts and systems begin to break down?  I call it Viscosity.

It’s not quite invisible.  And yet it’s also not a team component that’s easily held up for examination.  It tends to slip through the fingers of those trying to mold it into an easily recognizable and tangible shape that can be examined, probed, prodded and dissected for clear and perfect understanding.

It is the truly ineffable.  And yet, as my colleague Jeff Salz states, it’s the only thing that really eff-ing matters.