Often those who begin a meditation practice have the experience within the stillness that “this is boring and there’s nothing to do here.”
But with patience and a new perspective we can find a vastness within ourselves that mirrors the vastness within which all of life unfolds.
A new or developing meditation practice can be like a new landscape never before visited or explored. Standing at the frontier of this new landscape we can feel uncertain and not know just how to navigate this new place.
But with time and good guides and with patience and curiosity we soon discover the hidden and precious gifts that this new vast place within us contains.
Seeking our idenity through the highs and lows of life is a precarious roller coaster ride of illusion.
If we’re experiencing successes, then we believe that we are worthy. If we are experiencing failures or if we’re showing up in less that flattering ways, we can feel that we’re unloveable or not enough.
Discovering our true nature through our mindfulness, meditation and practices of awareness allows us to explore all of life’s experiences without getting swept away by them.
We establish a strong and core anchor line to our center, our true nature, which allows us the freedom to experience all the richness of life without misidentifying ourselves with the experiences themselves. (more…)
Our meditation practice is not simply an opportunity to recharge ourselves, it is an opportunity to practice and strengthen life skills such as non-attachment, presence, compassion, the easing of story telling, etc…
We then take those skills that we strengthen in our meditation out into our waking world and live with a more meditative presence.
And that meditative presence is not to be confused with boring, dull or monotonous.
To live with presence, attentiveness and grace is to be free to be playful, adventurous, curious and creative.
I love it when a classic country western song speaks simple sage wisdom.
Dan Hicks and the Hot Licks once intoned the poignant question,
“Baby, how can I miss you if you won’t go away?”
The same can be asked of our own sense of peace, stability and clarity.
Cultivating inner peace and stability takes patience and perseverance and once we taste it’s sweet balm, it can be really hard to see it slip away.
But this slipping in and out of awareness is a natural and even beneficial aspect of an awakening life.
We accept that the tides rise and fall.
We recognize the need for seasons to come and go.
We know that every gardenia that blooms, will soon fade, only to bloom again. And when it does, we get to re-experience our love of gardenias at least one more precious time.
What a gift.
With each ebb and flow, death and birth, wither and bloom, coming and going – this repeated reacquaintance with peace roots it deeper within us.
The benefits of cultivated awareness and presence become more clear and tangible every time they return from our forgetful state of being.
That which we practice, willingly or not, becomes stronger.
The day that my gardenias finally come into bloom after weeks of watching the buds patiently develop is a really, really good day. If they were always in bloom, I might just forget to notice.
I like to imagine that Dan Hicks and his Hot Licks may have discovered that with practice we learn how to appreciate our beloved anew again and again and again without them ever having to leave the room.
But when love does go, we can loosen our grip, knowing that its return will be all the more sweet the next time around.
Knowing that because we are now standing with an open hand, we will be all the more ready to receive it when it does.